I lie to people just to be polite. But I don’t lie to my friends. But what if they aren’t actually my friends and they talk to me just to be polite? But…
It’s a spiral that probably won’t end until I’m alone
It’s a spiral that probably won’t end until I’m alone
Or until you learn to differentiate between those behaviors, thought patterns, and underlying beliefs that make your life better in the present moment and those that pull you down.
There’s always a good reason why we’ve adopted these behaviors-- maybe they were crucial to our survival at one point. But that was then and this is now.
Working through all that is not an easy task. In fact, it can be hard work. But it’s so, so valuable. And when you commit to it you will see real progress.
All the best to you and everyone else who feels they are in this situation.
I’m not special in any way. Neither am I a particularly bad person nor am I a particularly good person. And being OK is honestly enough as there is no obligation to do good – you are only obligated to not do harm.
There’s a lot of room for me to be a better person but so is there to be a worse one.
what if i ALSO have a history of abandonment/abuse by friends and have been trained to believe that every relationship of every type is fake and that this is proof that im a test subject of international importance and im also a we and we are screaming at ourselves
Okay, here’s a radical thought that has actually helped me overcome this attitude:
Who the fuck do you think you are to discard everyone else’s opinions like that?
Maybe give the people who love and support you a little more credit?
For me it was my therapist going “you think all those people are lying to you just to be polite?”
Why yes, I do think that, but when you put it that way it makes me feel stupid for thinking that.
I lie to people just to be polite. But I don’t lie to my friends. But what if they aren’t actually my friends and they talk to me just to be polite? But…
It’s a spiral that probably won’t end until I’m alone
Or until you learn to differentiate between those behaviors, thought patterns, and underlying beliefs that make your life better in the present moment and those that pull you down.
There’s always a good reason why we’ve adopted these behaviors-- maybe they were crucial to our survival at one point. But that was then and this is now.
Working through all that is not an easy task. In fact, it can be hard work. But it’s so, so valuable. And when you commit to it you will see real progress.
All the best to you and everyone else who feels they are in this situation.
For me it was realizing I’m “just” OK.
I’m not special in any way. Neither am I a particularly bad person nor am I a particularly good person. And being OK is honestly enough as there is no obligation to do good – you are only obligated to not do harm.
There’s a lot of room for me to be a better person but so is there to be a worse one.
I’ve never had such a problem as I call myself evil and see no desire to change that. (Though nobody would call me evil)
what if i ALSO have a history of abandonment/abuse by friends and have been trained to believe that every relationship of every type is fake and that this is proof that im a test subject of international importance and im also a we and we are screaming at ourselves
i love this brain