• trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    4 days ago

    For me it was my therapist going “you think all those people are lying to you just to be polite?”

    Why yes, I do think that, but when you put it that way it makes me feel stupid for thinking that.

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      4 days ago

      I lie to people just to be polite. But I don’t lie to my friends. But what if they aren’t actually my friends and they talk to me just to be polite? But…

      It’s a spiral that probably won’t end until I’m alone

      • BenLeMan@lemmy.world
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        3 days ago

        It’s a spiral that probably won’t end until I’m alone

        Or until you learn to differentiate between those behaviors, thought patterns, and underlying beliefs that make your life better in the present moment and those that pull you down.

        There’s always a good reason why we’ve adopted these behaviors-- maybe they were crucial to our survival at one point. But that was then and this is now.

        Working through all that is not an easy task. In fact, it can be hard work. But it’s so, so valuable. And when you commit to it you will see real progress.

        All the best to you and everyone else who feels they are in this situation.