• Cruxifux@feddit.nl
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    6 months ago

    I was once seeing a girl for a couple weeks that FUCKING ROOFIED MY DRINK so she could look through my phone while I was lying there watching her unable to move. It was absolutely fucked.

  • Catpurrple@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 months ago

    An abusive partner accusing the other of cheating is very often a projection of the fact they themselves had been cheating. Since they know they would cheat, and were/are, they either assume the other person is the same way, or simply don’t want to draw attention to their affair. It’s an awful thing.

  • Lord Wiggle@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I have been abused by both my mom and my partners. They took advantage of my insecurities, because of their insecurities. No one ever acknowledged it until recently. I have no trust in ever getting a relationship with someone who treats me equally. According to my therapists, I responded by turning into myself instead of developing a personality disorder. Apparently I’m too sweet.

  • Cadenza@lemmy.world
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    Al…right. Let’s do a little sanity check and let’s see how up or downvoted is gets.

    1. It is absolutely true that violence against women is structurally endemic in our societies and they represent a large majority of domestic violence
    2. It is also absolutely true that domestic violence against men is clearly under-reported, to an unknown but significant extant
    3. It is absolutely true that abuse is abuse

    Those assertions do not contradict each other.

  • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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    6 months ago

    Really applies to most things. I’m not a dude, trans woman, but I’ve gotten sexually harassed a lot both pre and post transition and the response I got pre and post transition is night and day. Pretransition people treated me like I was crazy for feeling unsafe and like I was supposed to enjoy it.
    Honestly, men should be allowed to feel unsafe around women, or really allowed to feel unsafe in general, and be taken seriously for it.

  • mm_maybe@sh.itjust.works
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    My wife once hit me in front of my kids because she didn’t like my pointing out a double standard in how she was treating them. The one she was favoring recently started hitting the other one in a similar manner–basically just to silence her when she said something he didn’t like–and when I pointed out the similarity to my wife’s actions and suggested he had learned it from her she got mad and claimed that rather than hitting me she had “hit my hand away” which is a lie and she knows it. It is 100% classic spousal abuse and gaslighting, and yet due to the sheer size difference between us–I’m a foot taller–I feel ridiculous calling it that, and don’t want to find out what else my son learns is OK from his mom if I’m not around, so here I am still married to her, mostly trying to forget the abuse when it’s not actively happening. She’s been abusive, but I’m not really in any physical danger, so staying seems like the rational option in my situation… I imagine that’s relatively common among men.

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        How? By refusing to accept that female on male abuse is a thing. Go find a mainstream leftist place and bring it up. See what happens

        • Cadenza@lemmy.world
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          That’s truly a joke.

          It is my current understanding, from various experiences - and I want to state that I publicly engage with men and women who’ve had violent experiences in various ways on a regular basis - that men are FAR more likely to be supported when facing domestic violence by the left, the very same woke/feminist left.

          The right? They don’t give a flying f*ck. As always. The incels and their variants? They don’t care. They’re in a political crusade against social justice.