real talk though for what its worth I have met a litany of people throughout my life who have “weaponized” their masculinity or femininity by relying on some cliche about either gender to rationalize some behavior, preference, or perspective that they have about themselves or the world which seem to be toxic or have the capacity to be needlessly harmful to others, or to normalize their bad behavior at the expense of others. and it’s worth mentioning that the couple people I have known who identify as trans in my life don’t ever seem to weaponize their trans identity [is this bigoted phrasing? should I just say gender identity? /g ] in those types of ways (at least not around me or in ways that I have ever been able to feel imposed upon or threatened by, though reading people’s body language or other subtle cues for signals of different emotions has never been an area that I have excelled in, though I know people who are worse than me at it as well)