• Electricd@lemmybefree.net
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    16 hours ago

    According to you, homosexuality is only about gender, not sex. This isn’t right and there is no consensus as far as I know. I would personally say a cis guy dating a trans woman is gay

    gender and sex are not the same, for the 100th time

    You’re the one inventing misgendering here

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      15 hours ago

      Attraction isn’t really exclusively based on sex, though. It’s about a whole range of factors, including how someone presents their personality and their physical traits. Many trans women have a lot of traits people find attractive in women generally, so being attracted to a trans woman is consistent with heterosexual attraction.

      This means that liking trans women doesn’t automatically mean you’re attracted to men, so calling it gay is an oversimplification of how attraction works.

      You could argue that in a strictly biological sense it is homosexual, but that ignores a whole range of social factors, which isn’t really how the term “gay” is colloquially used.

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        9 hours ago

        This means that liking trans women doesn’t automatically mean you’re attracted to men, so calling it gay is an oversimplification of how attraction works.

        I get it. Calling it hetero would seem like an oversimplification as well though. We need more words!

        Attraction isn’t really exclusively based on sex, though

        I get it, but making it solely based on gender isn’t a good idea as well I believe. Doesn’t seem specific enough. Also, trans women and trans men don’t necessarily change physically, right? They can still look like their birth gender, that’s what’s throwing me off I believe.

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      15 hours ago

      After a bit of research, it seems like it aims towards being based on gender and not sex, hmm. I might be wrong on this one?

      I believe I might think it’s about sex because I wouldn’t be interested in a non cisgender person, but that might only be me? I had the feeling that most heterosexual people would not be interested in trans people