I try to be impartial, but each misstep online gets hammered on hard because apparently you need to be perfect for the imperfect themselves. Changing now would just be admitting to something i"m not so you cannot win. Shrugs I do my best and try to not let small mistakes turn into mountains.

As well I see other people posting the grey is female initially so that might have influenced me and I didn’t see anyone else calling them out.