I am a man and I’ve been roofied in public. It happens far more frequently than you would like to believe.

I cannot blame any woman who doesn’t want to take that risk with a stranger.

You seem to think I’m targeting men here, but that’s foolish. People are unpredictable, and anyone has the capacity to be dangerous. The only reason to respond to mild caution with such excessive hostility is your own insecurity. Nobody is calling you a rapist here man, it’s not about you, it’s just a precaution.

Do you all have a different idea of what a date is than me or something? The point is to get to know someone you don’t know yet. I guess if you were communicating for weeks beforehand this might seem weird, but that’s making some big assumptions. You’re acting like this woman has requested her friend accompany her for every moment of their ongoing relationship. It’s wild to me to get so insecure about someone not fully trusting you this first time you meet. Trust is built over time, and it’s not a slight against you if someone wants to protect themselves.

call it a crazy thought, but if i were premeditating sexual assault, i probably wouldn’t choose someone who has my name, photos, phone number, and a history of correspondence to show motive. lol

And yet, a casual examination of history shows that it happens all the time. And more often than not, charges never get brought up.

Now certainly the perceived frequency is far higher than the actual likelihood, but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to roll those dice.

Sorry, but you’re coming from a place of ignorance here, but I do get it. I used to feel that way, but I’ve known too many women in my life who’ve experienced assaults in public places to pretend it’s not a real issue. I’ve been roofied in public myself (wrong target, presumably) and have the privilege of only really having to worry about some scrapes and bruises. But the holes in my memory and understanding that that night could have easily gone far, far worse if I had been someone’s target is something that will always stay with me.

If you develop a phobia of men that is so bad that it prevents you from interacting with men, then that is YOU problem and you need to work that out.

This is stupid bullshit. Nobody has suggested anything like this and bad faith nonsense wastes everyone’s time. Grow up. It’s obvious you’re taking this woman’s caution as some kind of personal slight. It’s not, and you should really examine where those feelings are coming from.

He shouldn’t, and the fact that that idea doesn’t even cross most men’s minds is an enormous privilege.

I don’t know about you, but I generally take a little time getting to know someone before I decide to trust them. Why on earth would you not?

What you don’t seem to consider is the risk involved. When the consequence of misplaced trust is potentially rape or death, a small amount of caution is plainly warranted.

Nobody is out here assuming all men are rapists, that question is as irrelevant as it is idiotic. The point is that any man could be a rapist, and those odds sure as hell aren’t small enough to just roll the dice on some rando you’ve never met.

It’s easier for us (I’m assuming you’re male too). I don’t really have to care. The worst consequence we can reasonably expect is what? A too attached girl who won’t leave you alone? When was the last time you went on a date with someone who could physically restrain you? It’s not the fucking same, no matter how much you want to pretend it is.

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Why should they trust some random dude they met on a dating app?

You act like that’s some crazy fear, but it happens all the fucking time.

If you’re that dismissive of other people’s concerns, maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all.

Most women don’t make a habit of going out to bars alone, for good reason. It’s a very real risk.

As a guy who’s been roofied (presumably by accident, still don’t know what happened) I sure as hell don’t blame them.

Maybe it’s just cause I didn’t get to it till this year, so I skipped the janky stage, but holy shit that’s one of the absolute best games ever made IMO.

You got me with better ragebait than OP.